Advice for high achieving student

Not sure if this post is allowed here, I am an art teacher but this is regarding my own child.

She’s 7.5 and in 1st grade (could be in 2nd but we kept both our kids back so they’d be on the older side for their grade level). She was home 3/4 of the year last year with me due to the pandemic and just hasn’t slowed down with her learning since. She’s already beyond where the state’s expectations are for the end of 2nd grade. The problem is she is incredibly bored in class and doesn’t want to go to school anymore. Her teacher can’t seem to give her more challenging work. We’ve met with the school about moving her into 2nd grade asap and they’re pushing back (mostly because it’s work for them and then fell back on they might not even have space). They said some incredibly inappropriate things in the meeting and seemed to have no actual reasons for not allowing her to bump up. At one point the principal tried making a point that when she’s 15 she’ll be around 16 year old boys and we wouldn’t want that. I couldn’t even. And, setting aside all the layers of inappropriateness in that comment she would be the same age as half of them anyway. A counselor who doesn’t know her at all suggested maybe it’s ADD and that’s why she’s bored. My daughter absolutely doesn’t have ADD, we just thought it was wildly inappropriate to suggest that when her teacher, Peds doctor, physician father, and teacher mother have never been worried about it.

For reference, our older daughter also exceeded academic standards but she was so content to just hang back and help her classmates. I feel like they expect our 1st grade daughter to want to do that too and we’ve expressed our concern that it’s really more of a personality trait and we don’t expect her to always want to help her classmates learn so long as she’s kind and respectful (which she is). She does get frustrated with the younger kids in her class because she’s much more mature for her age in addition to being the oldest in her class.

So, we aren’t sure where to go from here. They suggested waiting until the end of 1st grade and then to skip 2nd grade and go straight to 3rd. That makes no sense to me for an array of reasons.

Should we push back to have her moved now? Request she’s given more challenging work and keep her where she is, skipping the following year altogether?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

Edit: added another inappropriate example from the school and corrected a word.

Submitted January 22, 2022 at 02:54PM by uhhidontcare https://ift.tt/3KAgo5H