I have a zoom meeting for a disciplinary hearing tomorrow, for a child that has assaulted me, and at least half my class

I am a first year assistant and a 20 year old woman.

My lead and I suspect fetal alcohol syndrome, and abuse. The child has no IEP. The mother has not consented to him being evaluated. He is past his maximum suspension time, as a kindergartener. He has some sort of speech issue, and has a cleft palate with a scar.

In November, I picked up the child and he tried to bite my chest and grab at it. When I tried to pull him off, he laughed. I should’ve known better than to pick him up, but I didn’t connect the fact that he had already made sexual advances on his classmates. I picked him up because he was a rolling under the carpet in another teacher’s classroom, and disrupting. It was the second time in 5 minutes, and I figured I could just carry him back to the classroom. I overheard his mother, when she came to pick him up hours after she was called- “I’m sorry, I don’t know where he picks this stuff up.”

After that, incident reports were filed, I had to take an hour to myself, the works. I cried in front of my boss who was understanding. Because admin never has their shit together, after Thanksgiving break, I was alone with my class at recess; I’m not supposed to be. He ended up hurting his face. Thankfully, one of my bosses actually apologized for it.

I have been informed by two of my bosses that the school would be moving forward in the attempt to expel him. I was ecstatic when I heard this news. Of course, in between then and the last time he was at school, he assaulted more children. I think the last time he was at school was over a week ago. Just this past Monday, we were informed that the board approved a disciplinary hearing for him and that his mother said she was withdrawing him. We were also told that he has a step dad and an older sister at home. Tomorrow is the disciplinary hearing. I am out of work tomorrow for a dentist appointment, but I was asked to join the zoom.

I know I shouldn’t let work tear me up, but fuck CPS. Fuck this broken system. My heart breaks for this kid, as much as I am disgusted and honestly traumatized. That being said, I cannot imagine the trauma this child is going through and will continue to go through at the hands of the system and his family.

I feel for him because CPS also screwed me over as a child. They visited the house, but interviewed me next to the problem, took his word for it, and left. I am still trying to put my life back together.

The children in my class might need therapy for what they’ve been through.

Now, I am part of the process of expelling this child, and hoping that he doesn’t completely fall through the cracks. Knowing that he already is. I am thankful that my class is safe now, but I know this child is not safe. This will never leave my mind.

If anyone has any similar experiences they want to talk about, advice, or opinions, feel free to comment.

Submitted December 06, 2023 at 05:04PM by Separate-Scratch-839 https://ift.tt/Npf04bF