I’ve been searching for ways to properly handle my concerns about a school vice principal.

I have two daughters in middle school (6-8) in California, their school has amazing teachers, minus one bad seed , but for the most part my kids really look up to their teachers, my issue is with the support staff mainly the vice principal. My 8th grader had her first boyfriend this year , it ended when he asked for inappropriate photos , and got angry when she said no. She ended the “relationship “ and there was no further conflict. About a month later two girls got into a physical fight over this boy. So my daughter was brought into the situation and she had to explain she had no involvement and why . During this time the vice principal demanded her phone . My daughter stated she had nothing to hide but her mother has a very strict policy that she needs to be present. I do this because our district has not had a very good track record with inappropriate behavior between students and teachers. With litigation still pending for failure to protect young boys at the next door elementary school , resulting in the sexual assault of many by a man the school and board protected. As I parent I know kids do not always use great judgment so if there is something on the phone I would rather find it than a stranger . The vice principal then demanded , yelling at her in front of students and said “ your mother has no rights and neither do you , stop with the attitude and give me the phone “. My daughter opened her camera roll but did not hand the phone over , which further angered her because she wanted to see texts , videos , Snapchat ect .” So my daughter walked away to PE. I received a call from a concerned parent over this altercation. I messaged my daughter to check on her , she responded during passing period and was met by the principal who ripped her phone out of her hands. She told him the situation and told her “ I don’t care your mother has no right to know what is happening at school”. After no response, I showed up, voiced my concerns and was met with gaslighting , policy and was told I didn’t fully understand the constitutional rights . Also that schools trump federal law. Which I knew were lies , but not being in the right mindset I left with my child. After school my 6th grade daughter informed me she was approached by the vice principal, asking why I was so upset . She explained “ because of the phone situation and how it was handled “ the vice principal informed her that “ your mother has no rights at school , once you set on school you have no rights and we are your parents now” she also added “ this boy has had multiple notes in his school record dating back to 6th grade for the same thing he asked if your sister , so maybe if your sister and these girls had better taste in boys these things wouldn’t happen to little girls so it’s their own fault”. After this I emailed the school with no response, so I went in to address all of this with a clearer head and a brush up on California education laws as well as the district policy. So when I was told I had no clue , I had proof so my concerns could be heard. There were other minor things I brought up but I think these are huge lying to students and parents about rights , intimidation, and then approaching my younger child to make a point then telling her private confidential information on another student . I still have yet to hear a response on these actions just they would be dealt with , my children do not have much faith that this will be handled and even some school staff is reluctant as well. I feel like this is a small , lower income community so most take the word and advice of the school as truth because they do not fully know their rights and their children’s so they trust school officials to tell the truth. I don’t know how many times I was told I didn’t understand the constitutional right in schools ect. Til I advices him I major in government and history, til I put school on hold to adopt my girls in my early 20s ( they are biologically my sisters) and that I spent hours reading updated policies and law . With just a “wow your dedicated huh?” Response …. I’m frustrated as a parent and for these teachers and students , this district has always like to sweep any misconduct under the rug instead of handing it properly.

Submitted December 07, 2023 at 02:42PM by softballmom1789 https://ift.tt/iuQfNF2