Hello I’m 27M I don’t have kids. But when I was a teenager in high school I was in this program, where the work was extremely easy. Like elementary school level, when I was a freshman in 9th grade. The program was called the transitional alternative program aka TAP. How I ended up in there I still to this day have no idea why. Because when I was in elementary school I did have special Ed services. But I was in mainstream classes and did work that was at the grade level I was in. The special Ed class I was in during grade school was like a learning center. Where I would go to get help with work from my home room general ed classes. They would have aides help me with the homework. And it benefited me a lot, I was able to stay on track with my assignments and I felt I got to have a normal educational experience. Like the other kids in my age group. I really liked my teachers at my elementary school. They were very nice and very supportive of me and they saw a lot of potential in me. But once I got into secondary education, Aka middle school everything started changing. Now I am on the autism spectrum, I have Asperger’s syndrome, high functioning autism as well as ADD. And the subject I always had tons of trouble with was math. And when I was in middle school In 7th grade I had normal classes I was taking pre algebra And I failed it. I had to take it again in 8th grade. And I was in the same system. Where I would go to the resource center class to get help with my work. And I passed my pre algebra class in 8th barely The teacher I had who was my case manager in middle school she was totally just cold and self centered. Not supportive. Always tried to crush my dreams and hopes. But once high school started everything got 100 times worse. As I mentioned above I was in the TAP class. And for those of you who have not heard of it. It is mostly a class for kids who have very serious disabilities. Like one of those for children that are either handicapped Or mentally retarded. They were giving me simple work that like 3rd grade level like multiplication and devison for math in 9th grade unbelievable as well as word search puzzles. Some of the kids were getting coloring books in high school, Unbelievable. And the teacher who was my case manager was really nasty. She would be really rude to my perents during the IEP meetings. And she as well as the people in the iep would talk to her as if she had no say in what happened. they would literally put out these documents and tell my mother to sign it saying it was a participation thing. That she participated in the meetings, they wouldn’t even let her read it and then later on if my mom disagreed with something they would tell her well you agreed to giving us the authority to make decisions about his services. They literally lied to her about what was in the papers and the agreements, which I don’t know how that can even be legal to me. That is coercion that’s something I feel that the school could get sued for.During the IEP meetings when they would go on, they would set out goals and the goals that they set out were totally ridiculous. Like saying your son is gonna learn how to write in cursive or how to sign his signature. It was torment for my parents and for me because I felt like a total idiot. The people in that class who ran it totally were unsupportive just literally thought that I had no potential in the world and every day I was there I felt humiliated emasculated, and I felt like a worthless piece of shit. I had two periods that I was in the class the other periods where I was in general Ed, I was embarrassed to tell my friends about it. If anyone noticed I was in that class I would lie to them and tell him I was a TA a teachers assistant because I didn’t want to get laughed at. And anytime I would ask my case manager in the class that I wanted changes I told her I would tell her I’d wanna be in regular classes. I don’t wanna be in a class where the work is below remedial level she would lose it like have a temper with me. She didn’t know how to reason and talk things out rationally. So when I started my sophomore year, my parents decided to take action. My dad called to have a special meeting and he spoke on my behalf and said hey my son would like to join and be in regular classes and they said no, and then my dad eventually had it to the point. This was in the middle of my sophomore year like two months into my sophomore year, and I remember at one point my dad had had enough where he said OK well we’re just gonna boycott going to that class. We’re gonna skip the periods that you go to that class and then just come back the periods after. Pretty much trying to make a statement to them how strongly opposed, and my family was to me being in that class so what I would do is I would stay home or I would go to the park and hang out at the park across the street during the hours, I had that class And then I would come back on campus when the periods changed and I had to go to a different class that wasn’t the special ed class. I did this for a week and a half and then one friend I had who was a teachers assistant in that class he was a TA saw me because I had history class with him which was general Ed and he said hey why weren’t you in class this morning. I told him the whole story and I told him please do not tell. Keep your word And then the next day he told my history teacher. And then he went and told my special ed teacher what happened and I went finally and I stood up for myself, and I said I’m tired of being treated like a stupid person and feeling like a second class citizen at this school, like being treated like an outcast and feeling like an outcast from the rest of the kids, I’ve had it. My parents went and tried to appeal my case to the district and we went and met with the head of the special ed department for my school district one day and he said that since it’s already in the middle of the year, we can’t get him out completely. We can try in the next semester and my parents literally told him I don’t want my kids standing in this class one day longer. so after that, my mom got a tip from a friend of mine who also had an IEP. He was also high functioning autistic and was in regular classes. He dealt with the same problem, but it was an elementary school many years earlier and his mother told me and my mom about a. psychiatrist who specialized with children on the spectrum she gave us his business card and we called him and we scheduled an appointment and we met with him three times and he tested me and said that my learning levels were in the normal range and we use this evidence at an IEP meeting and eventually I got out in the middle of my sophomore year and I was so happy and relieved. I felt it was one of the best things that ever happened to me getting out of that program. It literally felt like being in prison like being isolated from everybody else and the reason I’m riding this is pretty much the same thing that I mentioned up top why is it so hard to get your kid out of a special ed class if your kid wants to be in regular classes and he’s willing to work hard and he’s willing to make the sacrifices to do it. It takes to pass those classes. Why can’t the teacher honor the kid and the parents wishes, like why don’t their feelings matter why is it like trying to win a divorce settlement? You’re just trying to get them out of the class it shouldn’t be that hard. I was able to make it through that problem and get on with my high school Experience. I was on the wrestling team and I try and I got to go to the state championships. I got to go to prom. So I didn’t miss out completely on the high school experience. I made lots of friends that So I didn’t miss out completely on the high school experience. I made lots of friends that I’m that many of them, I’m still close with today. But I still feel looking back that there’s a void from that year and a half, almost 2 years of education that was lost and thrown down the drain. For no reason. So I’m gonna continue to ask that question why why do they have to treat kids like this? Why can’t teachers see the best in those kids and give them a chance to be in classes where they can be successful where they’re aiming the highest bar possible, not the lowest.
Submitted August 04, 2024 at 10:55AM by Funny_Preference_916 https://ift.tt/cOsxAKa
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