My mom doesn’t want me to go to university

I’m a senior in highschool, about to graduate in two months, and my mom doesn’t want me to go to university and live on-campus. I’ve already gotten accepted into the school I want to go to, and I’ve been telling her since last year that I want to live on-campus. Her argument is that COVID will just keep me stuck in the dorm all day doing online classes. She wants me to stay at home and do community college for two years, and then transfer to the school I want to go to. That’s what my older brother has been doing, and he’s miserable. I think she would be okay if I went to the university but lived at home, doing online classes, but I don’t want to. Money isn’t an issue, my family can afford sending me to uni, but I think that my mom would rather spend that money on designer bags, clothing, etc.. I feel like she doesn’t care about my education at all. I also think that she wants me to stay because I help with the family business, along with that, I have a younger sister at home who I watch over while my parents and brother work.

Everytime I try to talk to her about it she gets angry at me, telling me I don’t understand anything and I need to know everything about finances and stuff before committing, but she doesn’t even try to help me understand. I even told her that I’m willing to take out loans so they don’t have to pay, and that i’ll get a part-time job or do a work-study, but she doesn’t care. She always tries to make me feel bad, asking me if I only want to go because its cool and telling me that the school I want to go to is just like community college because it’s a public university (???). I wish she would just support me and be proud of what I’m trying to pursue.. I’ve been asking my older brother for advice, but he hasn’t helped. When this happened to him, he didn’t argue with her and went with what she wanted. I feel very helpless right now. I don’t want to be stuck here like my brother is, I want to go to university and get a better education. What could I say/do to convince her to let me go?

Submitted April 14, 2021 at 09:41AM by fleuwur https://ift.tt/3mM2XEo